While it has been 20 days since Gov. Ron DeSantis issued an executive order allowing visitors back into nursing homes, some families are still waiting to hold their loved ones.
DeSantis announced on Sept. 1 that nursing homes and long-term care facilities can open to guests following an executive order on March 14 prohibiting guests from visiting the facilities amid the COVID-19 pandemic.
Craig Borter, 60, and his siblings have not seen their mother for more than six months.
“We were allowed to sit on the porch, and they would bring her to the window,” Borter said. “There’s no comparison. It’s not the same. Its only slightly better than having a video chat.”
Strict guidelines were outlined Sept. 1 on how these facilities must operate. Among some of the requirements, visitors must pass a screening and wear personal protective equipment. DeSantis’ latest order has caused some nursing home facilities to continue postponing visitations, as they adjust to the change.
“We have not been allowed in the building yet,” Borter said. “We have phone conversations, but it’s difficult because of her cognitive abilities. We do have video chats weekly.”
Borter said he and his family will be back to visit as soon as it’s allowed. Given the new guidelines on how these facilities should operate, it won’t be for another month.
“The first thing I am going to do is kiss her on the cheek and hug her like you wouldn’t believe.” Borter said.
Despite how long it’s been since he’s seen his mother, Borter said he holds no grudge.
“The assisted living facility is doing an incredible job. They have been under severe pressure. It’s not their fault, they’re just dealing with the circumstance just like everyone else,” Borter said. “We just worry about how the loneliness affects our mother. As children, we understand the necessity for the isolation and being extra careful. But you do have to wonder what’s worse, potentially getting a virus — or the loneliness.”
It is still the responsibility of the care facility to be ready for guests. When the time does come, no facilities will allow any visitors unless 14 days have passed without a positive case. Only two guests will be able to visit at a time. For Borter, it is a step forward in the right direction for healing.
“As mother and son, you want to be there right in front of her, and be able to give her a kiss,” Borter said. “We are human beings, so we need that direct contact. It’s just as important as breathing.”
